How to calm a crying baby or toddler

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Among the most difficult things that parents have to cope with when it comes to babies is their crying. Most first time parents have no idea what to do to console their baby. It’s very easy for them to start feeling frustrated or inadequate at this time.

As babies grow older, they start having even more trouble keeping themselves calm. They may appear more unreasonable, hyperactive of impulsive. They may have trouble concentrating or may develop unusual sensory behavior. Parents may find it really hard to deal with such challenging behavior on a daily basis.

But there are a number of techniques which can be employed to soothe distressed babies. It is very important not to use any illegal drugs prenatally or in the formative years of a baby since this will certainly make it harder for them to regulate their behavior and sensory systems. But it is even harder for a parent to deal with babies who aren’t exposed to any drugs but still exhibit similar problems.

One of the most prevalent behaviors in babies is the constant high-pitched crying. It can be quite difficult to console a child. Babies who have been exposed to illegal or even prescription drugs may have an impaired nervous system and may experience delayed development. Babies who aren’t exposed to drugs may just have immature nervous systems, poor temperaments or another medical condition which is causing this challenging behavior. Whatever the background may be, the techniques which are used for comforting drug exposed babies can be just as effective when it comes to babies who haven’t been exposed to drugs.

Healthy infants may sometimes have trouble regulating their bodies. Newborn’s usually want to stay close to their mother’s. Babies who have higher self regulatory problems like colic will require greater intervention.

There are five techniques which you could consider when it comes to dealing with infants. They are known as the 5 S’s:

  • Snug swaddling while the baby’s arms are to the side.
  • Holding the baby on your arm on their stomach or side.
  • Shushing them with a loud “shhh”.
  • Swinging them in a gentle but rhythmic motion while on your lap.
  • Helping them learn to suck on pacifiers.

Even older babies may require support sometimes. They can be clingy and get upset when their mother isn’t around. They may expect you to hold them a lot and may also only sleep when you are holding them. They need to maintain physical contact with their mother or feel their breathing, heartbeat and movements.

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It can help if you get a front carrier pack for your baby. If they are still fussy, just tuck a blanket around them so it becomes a sort of kangaroo pouch. When they are too big for this pack but still want to feel secure, consider a baby backpack. By putting them in a pack, you will be able to keep your hands free while still managing to give them the physical comfort they are craving.

Some babies may require help when it comes to regulating their internal coping mechanisms or nervous systems. Their tantrums could be extreme and can last for quite a while. Parent’s may get hassled by this and feel as if they have not raised their child correctly.

Swaddling such babies may prove to be quite effective for parents. Wrapping them up in their favorite blanket and letting them cuddle on your lap can have a soothing effect. Some babies just find it comforting when they are under a heavy blanket, pillows or a comforter. The weight will also help calm the body physically. Some kids even like play tents. The confinement of these tents help reduce the external stimuli which is effecting them.

It is very important for parents to understand the unique physiological and developmental needs of their baby and not compare them with the needs of other babies. As a parent, you require intuition, patience and firm decisions to make the right choices. Remember, you aren’t going to be spoiling your child just because you are comforting, holding or teaching them how to remain calm.

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